When I got married, a very good friend pulled me to the side at my reception and said “whatever you did to get him, you have to continue to do to keep him.” Then she pulled my new husband to the side and told him the same thing regarding me. Those words stuck with me and as I get older I realize more and more what she meant. Being married and remaining happy takes work and just like any relationship if you forget to show your spouse/partner how important they are they won’t be happy for long.
For us it meant no matter what we had to continue to date each other and spend that quality time together, to remind us why we fell in love to begin with. Sometimes life can get in the way, your job, the kids, the bills etc. Don’t let those things or the things I didn’t mention, stop you. Remember when you were single, even if you worked all day you would still go out for drinks or dinner, just because you wanted that time together, just take an hour for you and him.
Its called Date Night, now I know when you have children it gets a little harder, you need a babysitter or maybe you just paid bills and even though your heart is saying yes, your wallet is saying whoa buddy slow down. We have all been there at one point or another but there are some simple, cheap things you can do and some can be done at home so no need for a sitter.
Play a childhood game- Remember card games or boards games you played as a youngster that was so much fun recreate those memories.
A picnic- On a nice day and if it rains do it inside.
Couples Pedicures – Get them feet looking good together.
Candlelit dinner with soft music and dancing – And let me tell you this can be done in your living room if you can’t get out.
Sing in a karaoke bar- Bring out your silly side.
Go out for dessert- This is so much fun.
Play video games together – You dont have to be addicted just let your hair down and have some fun.
Play a trivia game – You would be a surprised the types of conversations these start up.
Walk in the park- No you can’t take the kids, I know you were tempted 🙂
Volunteer together – It will make you feel good at the end of the day knowing you made a difference in someone’s life together.
Bowling – I just did this and I wasn’t very good at it but it was still fun.
These things can be done even if you are just dating and short on cash or want to do something different besides dinner and a movie. Date night should be once a week or at the very least 3 times a month, it is so important that we continue to date the ones we love.